Do You Suck or Are You Due?

Let’s set the stage: Major League Baseball is featuring Game 3 of the National League Series between the Los Angeles Dodgers and the New York Mets. The series is tied 1-1 and it’s the top of the 2nd inning. The score is 0-0 with two outs and runners on 1st and 2nd as Yasmani Grandal steps up to the plate for the Dodgers.

A stat pops up on the screen and the announcers tell us that Mets fans have something to cheer about as Grandal is a whopping 0-22 when at bat with runners in scoring position.

My friend’s Dad, an ex-Dodger himself, says “Alright Bets, 0 for 22… does he suck or is he due?”

The optimist inside me screamed, “He’s DUUUUUE!!” and was promptly punched in the gut by the reality of 0 for 22. Reality told me 0 for 22 was bad. Really bad.  If I knew nothing about baseball and you asked me if I wanna put a guy at bat who hasn’t driven in a run the last 22 times he’s had the opportunity I’d think you were crazy.

0 for 22. Does he suck or is he due?

The pitcher wound up and Grandal answered our question with a bullet through the gap to drive in both runners. He was DUE!

The Mets went on to win Game 3 but I can’t stop thinking about Grandal and the question, “Does he suck or is he due?”

The poor guy failed 22 times before he succeeded in driving in a run.  With the weight of going 0 for 22 staring him in the face, something in Grandal defied the odds and changed the game.

Think about it - in Grandal’s situation it would be sooooo easy to suck. So simple to get up there, take your cuts, and sit down at 0 for 23. I mean what’s one more of the same when 22 tries have all told you “you can’t.”

Now think about this – what an incredible difference it would make to think with every failure that you’re now one step closer to success.

0 for 22 is a lot of failure. 0 for 22 makes a strong case for sucking. And, 0 for 22 is a helluva stage for success.

Think about where you’ve been failing recently. What is it you arguably suck at? Where is it uncomfortable to go right now? What could happen that hasn’t yet?

The choice is up to you if you suck or if you’re due.

Let’s change the game ;)

The Most Important Choice

“What if she doesn’t see the value?”

“What if she thinks it’s too expensive?”

“What if she says no?”

It’s 7:52 am and these were the thoughts that ran through my mind as I stood in the shower.

I was anxious for a very important phone call with the athletic director at a major university. She was interested in my communication workshop and this would be the call where I could potentially be hired. 

While massaging L’oreal’s Rosemary Juniper shampoo into my hair (which admittedly smells amazing!) I thought of all the ways in which I might need to defend my workshop and expertise.

Mid-rinse I realized that I was preparing for the worst; that ALL my thoughts were negative. 

I stopped rinsing, closed my eyes and thought,

“Come on Bets… only positive thoughts…only positive thoughts…”

That’s when it hit me.

Only. Positive. Thoughts. = O.P.T. and right then I could choose to “opt in” to positivity and change the way I thought about the upcoming call. 

“She’s gonna love it!”

“It will be fun to talk with someone who understands the value of investing in communication and wants to better her department.”

“This is just a conversation, not a sale. There’s nothing I need to do except show up and be myself.”

I opted in to positive thinking and not only did the athletic director say yes, she asked if I could do three workshops instead of just one.

Lately I’ve been conscious of the fact that we often forget that we have a choice. At any moment we can OPT IN to changing our thoughts, our attitude, our reactions to what life offers up.

Enjoy the weekend and remember,


you decide.