“Life is like a piano. The white keys represent happiness and the black keys anguishes. Over time you realize that the black keys also make music.”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
For a long time I self-described as someone who “hated confrontation”. I avoided difficult conversations for the same reasons many of us do; because they can be challenging, and sometimes they’re hurtful, and mostly because for me they were very, very unpracticed.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Until age 24 I’d spent most of my life only playing the white keys when it came to communication. I avoided the black keys - what I thought was discord - without realizing that only by engaging with them could there be harmony.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Imagine telling Beethoven or Chopin or Rachmaninoff that they could only play the white keys! Without the black keys these men could not become Master pianists.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Similarly, until we can skillfully engage in conflict and confrontation we cannot master the art of communication.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
We must practice - only by learning all the keys can we make conversational melodies.
If you or your team could use help in engaging in confrontation for connection let's chat! "A person's success in life can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have." - Tim Ferris