It’s 2006 and my twin brother Chris is driving us along picturesque 280 just south of San Francisco. He’s come up from LA for the weekend and I’m filling him in on the end of what had been the longest relationship of my life at that point. The person I’d been dating was now dating my co-worker and in full “woe is me” fashion I laid out a few scenarios for next steps and asked Chris what I should do.
He was silent for a moment, and then he said something that I will refer back to for the rest of my life.
“Sometimes you just need to let things take their organic shape.”
The fact that we were 23 at the time and riding in my parents 87′ Volkswagen Vanagon made it sound like the most hippie/stoner thing he’d ever said. (For the record, my brother doesn’t smoke weed.) He does, however, have a knack for being wise beyond his years and though I didn’t fully grasp it in that moment, he was right.
Lately I’ve been struggling to let things take their organic shape. In moving to a new place, starting a new business and meeting new people there is a lot of unknown. The unknown is exciting - but it’s also scary because so much seems out of our control. (Spoiler alert: it is.) When things are unknown and outside of our control we have a tendency to want to DO things. Action is a remedy for fear; being in control of something somehow tames the wildness of that which we can never truly harness.
Every time I feel the need to DO something I think of those 11 words…
Often I find that the only thing I need to do is be patient. What I need to do is do less. I need to let go. Breathe. Stay open. Show up. See what happens.
Letting things take their organic shape isn’t a call for passivity or laziness. It’s honoring the space between no longer and not yet with all that you have.
Maybe things take the shape of an opportunity or adventure. Maybe things shape up to be a life lesson or unforeseen direction. And if things happen to take the organic shape or Ryan Gosling or Sophia Bush - please, call me!
Enjoy seeing how things shape up for you today :)